If I Knew Then Advice on careers, finance, and life from Harvard Business School's Class of 1963

Steps to find fulfilling work:

1. Take the initiative to investigate the places you think are of interest. Ask good questions.
   
2. Go with the self-assurance of having written on an index card each of your past accomplishments (including where you simply helped other people do their thing) in three forms:
   
   1. A simple phrase; e.g., “top salesman in New York office for three years”
   2. A three-sentence statement of the problem, your solution, and the result
   3. A one-page explanation or anecdote to share if asked to give details
3. Use those cards deftly to encourage people to talk to you — showing you listen on their level and understand whatever they tell you. Remember: The more they talk, the smarter they’ll think you are.

• Have fun. Doing things well is fun.
  
• Have a good relationship with each child, set boundaries, ensure each knows being loved.
  
• When in doubt, use the three most important words with your spouse: “You’re right, dear.”
  

The sweetest words in the English language are, “Granddad, would you like to …?”

Forget about “religion” and “spirituality.” What’s important is not those, but “relationship.” The sooner we appreciate that we have a loving God, the sooner we can enjoy the great bounty that flows from a warm relationship with him. One of these is true charity of the heart.

Humans need to be doing meaningful work. At any age. Or they die.

• Choose your partners well.
  
• Be gracious.
  
• Take your responsibilities seriously, but don’t take yourself too seriously.
  
• Never answer questionnaires.
  
• Our HBS-induced arrogance is demeaning to others and to ourselves.
  
• Children are a blessing.
  
• Sex never gets stale.